How would you handle someone in your life threatening self h...

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How would you handle someone in your life threatening self harm?
Posted on: 13 Sep 2017

  
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					If it is a serious threat they need to be admitted to the hospital. 
People who are self harming truly need to be affirmed (constantly) that they are not a burden, they are loved, they are not crazy. Often times they are overwhelmed with life, so you need to help them figure out how to get some weight off of their shoulders. Get them to a really good psychologist as well. Speaking from experience.					
Posted: 2 months ago   Like: 9 folks   Comments: 5
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				I've been trying to reassure her, but I guess her husband is constantly threatening to take the kids and leave. Every time I mention Drs she freaks out on me, and says her husband says it's too expensive.				
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				Oh dear 😢 I wish I had further advice... but I just don't think you can change someone's mindset once they are stuck in that loop. She needs professional help. That is too bad that her husband is not more supportive.				
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				I think I'm just going to have to call someone and tell them to go in stealth mode. She says if she see someone coming she'll do something before they can get to her.				
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				Wow that sounds really serious. Take some comfort that typically if a person is threatening, they probably won't follow through. It's the silent people that do. They won't tell anyone because they truly don't want to be stopped. If she's telling you, she probably wants to be stopped. That doesn't mean it shouldn't be taken seriously though. I will pray for her.				
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				Thank you. My dad was the silent one. Would have never expected it from him. I think that's why she reached out to me.				
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					See if 👪 is around if not then talk to someone that can help like a doctor counselor authority figure.					
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					Try to get tgem to see a counselor and just be tgere fortgem					
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					Self harm is not something to play around with. Alert the proper people in their lives. Parents, siblings, significant other. If they don't have these people then report it to law enforcement they can do a health and welfare check.					
Posted: 2 months ago   Like: 7 folks   Comments: 5
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				They have, and continue to check on her daily without her knowing. I've been in contact with a friend that lives close to her.				
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				What about medical treatment is that an option? Does she have a history of self harm?				
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				They took her in once after an od, but she wouldn't stay after the 72 hour hold.				
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				Unfortunately sometimes there's nothing you can do. Internal battles are hard. Just keep loving her and let her know your there for her.				
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				That's what I'm doing. Just reassuring her she isn't alone.				
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					It is imperative to listen to the person and take them seriously. Anytime a person talks about harming themselves or someone else, they need professional help. You need to get them help, even if you have to do it low key, without them knowing. They may be upset with you, but that's okay. Because you may very well have saved their life. People who are fighting an internal struggle like this usually are unaware of how it effects those around them. It's important for you to also keep your composure and try not to put more stress on them. Be open, be observant, and be pro active.					
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				Very well said.				
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					Get medical help for the self-injurer. While there is no specific diagnostic test for self-injury, you can encourage your friend to see a physician or mental health practitioner who can evaluate, diagnose, and create a treatment plan. Hospitalization may be required for severe, short-term crises.
Some self-inflicted wounds may require medical treatment. Extensive scarring may be able to be covered or reduced with cosmetic surgery.					
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					call the local police and notify them they will help the person if find fit.					
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					Well for someone going through this with my daughter she is serious every situation is different not everything its a guilt trip at all depends on who and whats goi ng on. She is in therapy and being put on meds if it's in dire need then they should go to hospital and be put in watch. But first and for most therapy and Don't leave them alone yes even if it's a cry wolf thing u may never know. Take it to heart or u may wish you had hun. Talking from personal experience					
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				That's my biggest problem. She is 300 miles away, and her husband has just gotten fed up with her. She is suffering horrible PTSD, and he thinks she full of it. She hasn't slept more than 2-3 hours a day in months.				
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					I would either ignore them or get them help.					
Posted: 2 months ago   Like: 4 folks   Comments: 0
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					Dont play into it yourself but call someone else who can offer the person help. This is a guilt trip often used to get a result the person wants. You can even call the police and notify them of it. This is a form of emotional abuse. My best advice is to seperate yourself and notify someone else. Get to a safe place because sometimes when someone doesn't get the reaction they want to this tactic they can resort to worse tactics.					
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				I honestly feel like she is going through a real mental breakdown. I'm 300 miles away, so I can't tell how serious she is.				
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				Call her local police and have a wellness check done. They can tell how serious the situation is and if action needs to be taken. Or a family member in her area.				
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				I guess that's what I need to do. I'm scared of pushing her over the edge. I know she's looking for attention, but I feel like it's a cry for help.				
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				If they feel it is serious they will admit her to the hospital and have her evaluated. If the behaviour is purely attention seeking you can request they call you back about their findings and you will know for sure.				
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				Her biggest problem is she won't tell anyone everything that she's been through, so they only know bits and pieces and she really does sound crazy.				
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				Then she needs help. Having the police involved is really your best bet. Be honest with them about everything that she has told you especially about the threats and that gives them a better perspective not to listen if she denies treatment.				
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				They may ask for screenshots of texts if you have them as proof.				
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				I do.				
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				She actually ordered cyanid pills. I made her flush them today while I watched on FaceTime.				
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				She needs to go in then. Notify family but definitely get the police involved. If shes gone to that length then it is a serious issue. Since youre not physically there its the only way I can think of to help her.				
Posted: 2 months ago   Loved by: 1
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				Thanks for your input. I've been dealing with this for 2 days straight.				
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				Youre welcome. Ive been in similar situations. The best thing for yourself is to seperate yourself so you can think rationally for the person who cant. Good luck and I wish you the best!				
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